Saturday, April 30, 2005

Real love

My mom and dad began dating 30 years ago today. Within a year they were married, and they still are, quite happily. This is what I want to find, because I think if theirs isn't real love, I don't know what is. Thirty years and going on strong. Wow.

I'll keep my eyes open tonight when we go to celebrate May Day. The day has a good vibe to it. ;) Although I don't have that much time for the scenery (heh) before we go to my friends' place where there will be four married couples and me. The quality of the company is without a doubt extremely high, there's just no chance for me to meet anyone new there. Oh well, I'd rather spend the evening with good friends than wander from full-packed bar to another tonight, anyhow. :)

In other words,

Hauskaa vappua kaikille!


Aino said...

My parents celebrated their 30th anniversary last June. They've had their ups and downs, but they very obviously love each other.

I couldn't agree more with what you said about wanting that kind of thirty-year happiness! But why does it have to be so very difficult?


Translation: There's someone. There are advantages. There are certain obstacles. We've figured twice in the space of a year that we shouldn't try because of said obstacles. Last spring we got together and I backed off. Now we got together again and he was the one to back off. Argh doesn't cover my emotional mess at the moment.

Johanna said...

Oh dear. Sounds like you're really in a difficult relationship situation. My experiences of similar dilemmas are few, but I think it's best to try and listen to your heart.

I know it sounds tacky, but there's a bit of truth to it. What I'm trying to say is that if you think he's the one you want to be with, the obstacles shouldn't keep you from being with him. If it's the real thing, it's bound to be worth all the risks. Be strong. *hug*

Aino said...

Thanks for your support! The trouble currently is that I'm perfectly willing to take risks but he's reluctant. There are some things I'll need to clarify between us, just as soon as I've managed to clarify my own thoughts - and to gather enough guts to take up the discussion where we left off last week.

Tigerlily said...

sigh...I want the 30 year happiness, too. I found the one I want it with, but he's a boy, and he's all talk, and says he'll never get married. I don't buy it, but...I still have patience.

Obstacles...sometimes surmounting obstacles makes you value the end result even more. If everything were easy, you wouldn't have to work at your relationship, and you probably wouldn't value it as much.

And don't ever, ever settle. I almost did, once, and I would have been miserable.

So...that's my two cents!